


Make Love Not War: Why Couples Fight and How to Keep the Peace
Ever wonder why couples fight? One minute you’re happily caught up in the daze of love, gazing at your partner, thinking how lucky you are. The next minute, your partner says something that pushes your buttons. You feel triggered and talk back. Before you know it,...
Are We Really “Fools” Who Fall in Love? Why We Choose Our Mates and How to Pick Better
Have you ever felt pulled by a magnetic force towards someone you later realized was definitely not “The One”? How many times have you said to yourself, or your friends, “I just don’t have good judgment about men. I’m alway choosing the same kind of guy—the wrong...
The Top 10 Ways “The One” Will Treat You
There’s is an epidemic of crappy relationships. We put up with bad behavior from our romantic interests. I remember talking to my client who was dating a woman that was not good for him. I asked him when he started seeing her negative patterns. “Right away”, he said....
Postpartum Depression: You’re Not Alone
Pregnancy, birth, and the early weeks of motherhood are cherished in our society. We see images of glowing women with child. We share the precious preparations of the nursery, complete with tiny socks and shoes. We adore those newborn photoshoots with soft props meant...
Deciding to Have A Baby—Or Not: How Do You Know If You’re Ready for Motherhood?
Seems like just yesterday you were closing in on 30. You may have thought about having a child. Or it may have been the furthest thing from your mind. After all, you had plenty of time.
Perhaps you were still single. Perhaps you were pursuing your career or furthering your education.

How to Get Over a Breakup
We often associate grief with the death of a loved one. But what about the death of a love? Breaking up with a romantic partner can certainly feel like death!
People change. We’re not static beings by any means. Even our cells die away and are replaced. We’re ever-changing and always renewing at our core.
So why expect a romantic partner to remain the same?

Being with Grief and Loss
Our grief, which by definition is deep sorrow over loss, is often compartmentalized. Even the deepest grief for the death of a loved can be confined to a few hours of public grief at a funeral home.
As long as we keep grief within those walls, it won’t swallow us whole. That’s what we think.
“What has to die is your refusal for things to die. Your refusal for things to end. If that dies life can be fed by that.” — Stephen Jenkenson, Orphan Wisdom School

10 Ways to Grow Self Love
A few years back, I found myself falling head-over-heals for a new man in town.
He was strikingly handsome, sensitive yet strong, and well attuned to the tones and shifts of my inner world. His sexy British accent melted me and his is dry humor sent me into stitches with laughter. I quickly opened my heart to him and felt ecstatic when he chose to enter.
With him in my life, I shined in full glow.
Then one horrible night . . . he turned around and walked right out . . .

Realistic Expectations for Modern Marriage
Do we have realistic expectations about marriage? Probably not…
In part one, you read a historical overview of the evolution of marriage from an “arrangement” built on economic and political security, patrimony, and lineage to a “promise” of mutual fulfillment–emotional, spiritual, and sexual.
Yet, we still long for the old-fashioned marriage ideals of safety, security, dependability, and familiarity. And now we also expect the new marriage ideals of ever-present passion, authentic intimacy, equality, and self expression.